http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/12/t-magazine/rihanna-miranda-july-interview.html?smid=tw-tmagazine&smtyp=cur&_r=0

‘‘What impresses your mom?’’ ‘‘She’s always impressed when she sees me being a little sassy or sharp, when she sees me defending myself. It makes her feel safe, like she doesn’t have to worry about me.’’

(never apologize for something you can't control)