http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/05/17-women-talk-about-how-to-make-friends.html

I had a kid right after moving to France in 2013, and when I think back on my first fall and winter here, and how pathetically lonely I was, I feel so sad for myself that it's almost like it was another person. I would stay at home with my baby, rearrange the knickknacks and books on the shelf, and when my husband would get home from work ask him to spot the changes. — Noelle, 30
My approach to friends for the past few years is that I notice someone being really smart and/or funny and/or a good writer online and in my relative peer group and I decide we are friends. Gradually, I let them in on this by asking them out on a friend date, texting them, emailing them, etc. I assume a level of familiarity that is appropriate for already-established friends but not in a way that is invasive or entitled. I don't expect them to reciprocate or anything, I just ask sincere questions and don't keep any secrets, always assuming the stance: So fun to be around you and in contact with you, Friend. It works really well! They are tricked into being my friend almost every time. — Charlotte, 33