https://www.buzzfeed.com/aishamirza/until-white-women-ruined-it?s=webapp&utm_term=.rsyMQnynO#.pl6pO5Y5N

“It starts so young,” Y says, when I stop talking. “How we learn to doubt ourselves, second-guess our intuition, mistrust what we know to be true, and all because white people are meant to teach and not to be taught.” Eighteen years later, the affirmation still feels fresh, like it feels godly to tell this story to the person I love and not have to explain the experience of constant emotional contortion, not have to explain why it hurts.