https://bendinggenre.com/2013/05/27/dearly-beloved-dinty-w-moore/

I didn’t tell them much. I mentioned that marriage is like writing: you need to show up at your writing desk and at your marriage desk. I mentioned that marriage is not like writing: writing needs to be attacked, relentlessly, while people need to be handled tenderly, coddled a bit. “Show up, be tender.” That’s the best I could muster.