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Stephen Sutherland • 16 hours ago I haven't seen much Gilmore Girls at all, just snippets here and there when my wife watches it. I've seen and loved FNL from start to finish though. It seems to me that the difference here is that Lorelai Gilmore seems to be her daughter's friend first and mom second, so when she tries to switch gear to mom-mode then there's friction. Tami, on the other hand, is always mom first, but in this moment she wants to be Julie's friend and confidante as well as a mother, so, again, friction.