https://psychologycare.com.au/what-your-therapist-really-thinks-about-you/
Humans’ have the capacity for emotion, this is our beauty. Our emotions are our compass. For example, if I love, I want to connect, if I feel angry, I want to assert myself, and if I feel guilty, I want to repair. The fact we have this internal guidance comes at a cost, when our feelings are hurt, we can be overwhelmed and we tend to do whatever we can to spare ourselves from emotional injury. It is those things we do to spare us, that often cause us symptoms which then exacerbate our suffering, and lead to mental health issues. This is not crazy, this is being human.
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Many clients won’t realise how inspiring their capacity for love is, or even see themselves as loving people. But the truth is, often the reason they suffer is because of a “gift of love.” For example, if we lose, we mourn because we love, after all what is grief if it is not a celebration of love. If we feel angry towards someone we care about, we often repress it, and turn it on ourselves via self-doubt or blame. Whilst this is not ideal, it can be seen as a gift of love — as we care so much about the other person, we spare them and attack ourselves instead. When we are abused or neglected, somehow we end up “bad,” and suffering with low-self esteem or worth, because the alternative of feeling righteous anger towards the person we care about is too painful, so we make ourselves the issue. These are all acts of love, and demonstrate an incredible capacity to love. In my view, most mental health issues are an unknowing unconscious gift of love, because each of us at some point have learned that we have to cover up within ourselves that which could not be loved.
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