weekend reading pays for weekend drinking

you are kinda smart. (wait is that it? oh) you are smart and kind :D

https://www.polygon.com/2019/7/12/20690302/the-farewell-review-awkwafina-lulu-wang-a24

I don’t feel — and the point of The Farewell is not — that that’s necessarily untrue, now, but it feels significant to have these ideas explored so well and in such a forthcoming way. I’ve never expressed to anyone exactly why, whenever my family would visit and then take leave of our relatives in South Korea, I would to look back out the window of the car to watch my grandmother waving goodbye until I could no longer see her, or that I developed the habit at all. Each time, I knew that it would be at least a year until I would see her again, another year in which both of us would get a little older. It always felt like I should take that last look, just to have a little more time with her, or at least have a last image of her in my mind, in case that time would be the last. And then, one day, it was.

https://www.depressionalliance.org/avoidant-attachment/ Be objective, about your partner’s behavior as well as your own. When something’s going wrong, take a step back and look at the situation. Start to recognize your old, unhelpful patterns of behavior and set some new ones. Identify what your emotional needs are and find ways to assert them. Find ways to increase your self-esteem. This can help you avoid taking things too personally or feeling the need for constant reassurance from your partner. Take a risk and be honest and authentic. This means with your partner, but also with yourself. Accept other people for who they are. Stop looking for faults. And accept your own faults while you’re at it, even as you seek ways to improve those that are destructive or getting in the way of what you want to achieve. Find ways to compromise. Think about “we,” not just “I” and “you.” Reflect on your past. Understanding previous close relationships, romantic and otherwise, may help you understand why you behave the way you do. A therapist may be able to help you through this process. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-freedom-change/201802/dismissing-attachment-and-the-search-love The reason that love and affection are so threatening to someone with a dismissing attachment style is that these things were typically not made available from parents in childhood — even though on being interviewed, they usually state that their childhoods were idyllic, and that their parents were loving, without offering supporting memories of evidence. In this situation, the child will deny the need for love and affection rather than stay in a state of sadness and yearning. After years of pushing this lack of love out of awareness, the dismissing adult feels strong and confident.

i would describe my personality as fidget spinner

remember this is s'posed to be fun (roller coaster)

"well you took this job"

welp

i have never understood one post-credits sequence

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